A new calendar year has begun, and in a short while, we'll come to the first anniversary of Jeanette's home-going. In many ways, I've adjusted to her absence, but sometimes I still pause and ask, how can this be that she's not here? It still feels so strange for her not to be here, but if I've learned anything through the past year, it's this. My ability to go on with life depends on where my focus is.
It truly boils down to the old adage of whether the proverbial glass is half full or half empty. I can focus on what I don't have or on what I do have. If my perspective is all about the emptiness of her absence, and if I can't see past the hole in my heart, I might never recover. I might as well curl up and die my own slow death! How dismal! How depressing! How unutterably sad! Or, my perspective can be on the goodness of life, even though she's gone.
By purposefully and intentionally seeking good, I've discovered there is so much that's still good about life. With or without Jeanette, I am very, very blessed. And, dare I say, some blessings might not have come otherwise? I pause and ask if I'd be doing what I'm doing if Jeanette were still here. Would I be where I am today? Would I be going in the direction I'm going, pursuing the dreams I'm pursuing? No, quite probably not. And, in this case, that's all good.
My theme has always been, and continues to be, God doesn't allow bad things to happen in order to bring about good. However, when something bad happens, He specializes in turning it around for good. Good is found by seeking it and intentionally looking for it with a positive perspective and focus. It requires seeing the glass as half full rather than half empty. And, that's a choice. It's the choice I make each day.
Sara Faith Nelson
Sharing the journey, because, I find there are so many others making the trek through life without a loved one