The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows). (John 10:10)
Some days I’m fine, but other days, not so good. Lately it’s been a not-so-good time. Just when I think I’m getting used to the way things are now and adjusting to life without Jeanette, Wham! Grief hits me all over again like a storm cloud unleashing its fury.
I miss Jeanette so much, and I’m highly conscious of her absence. Of course! As if I wouldn’t miss her? Something would be very amiss if I didn’t! Yet, I’ve learned there’s a tipping point on the scale between healthy and unhealthy sadness. When you were a kid, did you ever stand on the center of a teeter totter trying to balance the two sides and keep them level? That’s kind of how it feels to me as I try to keep from slipping into unhealthy grieving—a type of grief that leeches purpose and meaning from my life.
That’s when I realized the application of John 10:10 to grieving. Unhealthy grief comes to steal and kill and destroy me. But Jesus came to give me life and to help me enjoy a rich and full life, even now. I can live two ways. I can be death-conscious, always aware of my loss, or I can be life-conscious, continuously seeking purpose and fulfillment in spite of my loss. My life does indeed have purpose, and God is here with me to help me walk in it.
Returning to the metaphor of the teeter-totter, it’s hard to stand there holding the two sides balanced, and sometimes kids fall off. I remember falling. Picture this. Along comes Daddy, who sweeps the child into his arms, and holds her safely. Do you see? It’s my Daddy, God, who picks me up and holds me in his arms, and comforts me. The balance between healthy and unhealthy sadness is found resting in Him.
Sara Faith Nelson
Sharing the journey, because, I find there are so many others making the trek through life without a loved one